Monday, February 13, 2012

do you have a couplemate?

To everyone reading this that's in a relationship (or has ever been in one), I'm curious: do you know what I'm talking about when I say the term "couplemate?" It's like a soulmate but it's two people rather than one. It's a couple that you kind of feel like is freakishly similar to you and your significant other to the point where you feel you were somehow fated to meet?

Okay, there I go being all hippy and cosmic-y again, but nevertheless Jas and I have now found our couplemate and that's who we've been hanging out with the past two weeks. (I've decided to fabricate their names, less to preserve their identities and more in order to fantasize that my blog is big enough to warrant the concealment of identities. So I'll be referring to them as Sebastian and Britannica for my own amusement. Play along, won't you?)

Sebastian and Britannica journeyed down from the blustery tundra to hang out with us in sunny Florida for a while. They were only supposed to be staying with us for about a week, but we were just having such a darn good time with them that we asked them to stay for two. Now, I have to be honest with you guys, I get antsy when people stay with us for more than two days. I can't help it, I feel like I have to entertain and be "on" 24/7 and well it just screws up my whole routine so I'm a big grouch. Not with ol' 'Bastian and 'Tannic though... those two gems made it a breeze. (Okay, so keeping up the top secret thing was harder than I thought. Their real names are Sean and Brittany. Less exotic but certainly easier to spell. ps. Sorry if you guys didn't want to be in my blog, you're going to be SO FAMOUS NOW *end delusion*.) Anyway, it was the weirdest thing, from the second they got here it was like the four of us had been friends for years. Jason and Sean are frighteningly similar - goofy, energetic, lacking appropriate humor - and Brittany and I have a ton in common too - she's low maintenance, fun-loving and takes aforementioned inappropriate humor in stride, as I do with Jason.

For two weeks straight we did everything together - we filmed videos for IWearYourShirt, watched the Super Bowl, cooked amazingly delicious meals (that would be all Brittany, I took notes), we worked out, went to a few movies, drank beer and played Trivial Pursuit (fine, it's geeky, but so fun!) It was crazy how easily they just fit into our lives here and it made me realize something. Before them, we really didn't have a great couple of mutual friends.

When you start a relationship, at least the way Jason and I did, you come from two separate worlds. You have your friends and he has his friends, and over time you try to integrate each other into each circle. But the problem is that each of those groups knows you individually without your significant other. Sure, over time they come to see you as a part of a duo, but they always think of you first as the person you were without your significant other, and honestly I think sometimes you can be judged against that person you once were. But with friend couples that you meet when you're already together, it's a different kind of bond. You don't feel guilty for being "too couply" or being open about your quirks, your fights, your entire relationship dynamic because the other two can totally relate. I don't know if this makes sense to anyone else, but it was a feeling I hadn't experienced before and it was really nice. To find another couple that goofs off like you do, that argues like you do, that communicates like you do and laughs like you do is really rare. One of the best feelings in the world is one of genuine human connection and finding friends that you can relate to as a couple I think is important to the growth of your relationship, just like finding girlfriends you can relate to is important for your own personal growth.

To anyone out there reading, is this sounding crazy to you? Do you know what feeling I mean when you find another couple just like you, and do you even think that's important?

Heading to Vancouver next Saturday but hopefully I'll have more theories of the universe, craftiness and life updating headed your way soon. You never know what this noggin is gonna cook up next. Thanks for reading.

1 comment:

  1. J and I have a couplemate! And we met them online. I stumbled across Sam's blog and we ended up meeting one night for drinks. Then we went out as a couple. I was nervous because I didn't know how her boyfriend, Nick, and J would get along but they really hit it off! Now we do stuff with them at least once a weekend. :)